Today I am going to have a vent session! I have been stressed out because Finn still won't eat. He is normally a BIG eater, but ever since this weekend he has not wanted to eat at ALL. He will eat certain things but he is being very picky and it's not like him. I am stressing over it but I guess he is old enough to let me know when he is hungry. I have always wanted him to eat a lot and now this not eating is really bugging me.
I want Finn to listen, but I don't know if spanking is the right thing for him? He has been pitching these temper tantrums when we do tell him no. He is very strong willed (thanks to Jared for that) and gets irritated very easily. I don't want to give him the wrong message about hitting but I do want him to respect us and know what NO means.
I took Finn back to the doctor on Monday and he said his ears looked fine now but he looked like he had blisters in his throat that were pretty much cleared up. He said he could have had that Hand, Foot, & Mouth virus. The doctor at the beach didn't even look at his throat. Sometimes I think doctors just say something just to pacify us Moms?? Can you tell I'm frustrated today!
Then another thing I'm wondering about is when to take Finn's paci away. He doesn't take it all the time, mainly when he sleeps, naps, or when he is really fussy I will give it to him. I am afraid if I keep on he is going to get more attached to it, but he likes it when he sleeps and I don't want to take it away to soon?
Being a Mom is a very hard job if you think about it. All the decisions you have to make for your children. What they're going to eat, to breastfeed or not, what there going to wear, where they're going to school, punishing them or not punishing them, when to take away the paci, when to change to 1 nap a day, to take them to the doctor or not to, the list goes on and on.
And yes, everyone has their own opinions. That's why God made us all different. I have my own idea of what parents should do for their children, and I see everyday what I think "should" be done with children. We shelter Finn from the world and from getting germs. Do I think it's the right choice for him, not so much, but it's just what we do. I stay at home with him and try to not let him get germy. He still is sick ALL the time? I think we are starting to lighten up a little bit. I don't want to hold him back from playing on playgrounds and interacting with other children because I am afraid of him getting germs. I don't like to leave him, I know everyone says it's a good thing to be away, but I just can't. When I wanted to have children I wanted to give my whole life to them, not give them to a babysitter all the time. When I go out somewhere, I want to go where he can go. If he can't go with me, I don't want to go. I do feel like Jared and I are good parents. Finn is happy, healthy, growing like he is supposed to, and doing everything right.
I LOVE being a Mom more than anything in the world. It has opened my eyes to a whole new life. I shouldn't complain because all of these hard decisions I think I have, there are Mom's having to make life changing decisions for their children and families. I have so much to be thankful for!
All we can do as Mom's is ask God to guide us to make the right decisions for our children. I know with God's help I WILL make the right decisions for Finn!
If you have any suggestions or idea's that worked for you please share!
The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.
Proverbs 16:9